Book 10, Question 60
Why Is It Okay to Say No to a Hug?
It is okay to say no to a hug because your body belongs to you! You get to choose who touches it and when. If someone does not listen to your no, tell a trusted grown-up.
More fun facts
- Girl Scouts experts warn that telling a child she owes someone a hug because of a gift or a long visit can make her wonder whether she owes people physical affection.
- A Girl Scouts developmental psychologist says the lessons kids learn about setting body boundaries, and having them respected, can last a lifetime.
- Kids can show they missed someone or say thank you with a smile, a high five or even an air kiss, and they get to choose what feels comfortable.
- Relatives can offer a child a choice of greeting, such as a hug, high five, fist bump or wave.
- Many children prefer not to hug people unless they feel close to them, and experts say that choice should be supported.
- Sometimes children test the idea by saying no to a hug and waiting to see what happens.
- Letting kids know ahead of time that a relative especially loves hugs can help them get ready, while still reminding them they have a say.
Sources: girlscouts.org, theconversation.com
Questions kids ask
How can I say no to a hug politely?
You can smile and offer a high five, fist bump or wave instead, and say something kind like it is great to see you.